Leaving social media - 7 weeks later.

Whilst aimlessly musing yesterday I realised that social media had totally fallen out of my consciousness. I no longer thought about either FB or TW, I no longer think in status updates, I don't see something and immediately note it as an interesting thing to add to my stream.

Concrete changes to my life:
* I spend more time in direct meaningful communication with my real friends. Letters, 500 word emails, texts. One to one, not the broadcasts of social media.
* I take less pictures.
* I have more time for everything but more tellingly -
* I can concentrate on things for much longer periods. We're still only talking 20 minutes but that's better than the 30 seconds I could do before.
* I'm not conscious of any gap in my life.

All in - I can recommend it, I'm genuinely happier. And I still get invited to parties.

There's a surprise coming to interrupt you.


There is a surprise coming toward you that you can't see. If it arrives and you've dealt with all of the things pulling on your psyche, you can be present and welcoming  to the opportunity. If you have 300 unprocessed emails to deal with and a surprise shows up you'll be annoyed at the interruption to your world. 

If there's a quiet moment, tidy a draw, bring yourself as close as possible to a state of total mindfulness where you can be free to bake that cake, teach that child because these loops, they keep pulling. 

The Human Layer - ipad magazine

The Human layer is probably the best magazine I have ever read on the ipad. 

The articles are focused, well written and knowledgable. The magazine is well designed, interactive and fits the medium without being weird. The subjects are varied and interesting. 

I believe they say they specialise in the digital world but don't let that hold you back from subscribing, you will be interested. There's a huge amount in there for UX guys like me, writers, producers, editors, product managers, all of you. 


Oh yes, it's free.  

And there are no adverts.  


yes, yes I do charge for that

Can I make those changes? No problem, I can do that for you.

Will I charge for that? Yes, Yes I’ll charge for that.

No, no I don’t do discounts. I don’t do mates rates, bulk buys, cash reductions, charity reductions. I’m not negotiable on my payment terms. You can’t pay me late, you can’t pay me in instalments. I won’t do it for less on the promise of more work in the future, I won’t do it because it’s a great portfolio piece.

If I need to do some work, I need to send you a bill. Asking me if I’ll charge for that says you’ve missed an important part of this business relationship we’ve entered in to - that it’s a business.

Sure, I’ll answer a 60 second email for you, have a quick chat on the phone with you - but I won’t email you a 500 word recommendation on your social media strategy or walk you through the interface over the phone when you should have been listening the first time round.

I work to pay my mortgage, to provide for my children, to pay for the software and the hardware I need to keep working, for the insurance I need to pay, for the taxes I need to pay, for the accountant I need to pay, for the training I need to take and for the books I need to read.

Yes, I do charge for that.

2011/03 Mike Monteiro | F*ck You. Pay Me. from San Francisco Creative Mornings on Vimeo.